Are you feeling overwhelmed from having a negative mindset from time to time? Do you find yourself acting in ways that are painful to yourself and others, but not knowing how to stop or use the power of your mind to create freedom?
During my current 7 A’s of Healing series of vlogs on YouTube, I took some time to address a question posed by a young man caught in the throes of a negative mindset with some very practical advice.
After writing it, my next thought was to share it with a wider audience on the CHEK Blog, so that more people could benefit from these tips and methods I’ve used to help my clients to create freedom for themselves. I hope you enjoy learning and practicing the creation of freedom!
Dear Paul: Why do I have evil thoughts in my head that just keep bugging me? I know it’s a big question but if possible just bless me with a short and effective answer. I’m afraid I might act out unconsciously on one of them some day. Please answer me with a speedy response. I’ve sought counsel, I’ve read all over the internet, and I feel more lost today than ever.
It’s a scary feeling… I’m turning 20 and have no idea where life will take me or where I will be when I’m 25-30. I honestly have no plans, goals, or motivation to drive me and wake me up every morning.
I’m on house arrest and have been incarcerated for over a year. I’ve been completely dead sober. I’ve had no physical contact with a woman for over a year. I feel like my sexuality is becoming warped, and I’m just struggling bad every day with my thoughts and my actions.
I’m very compulsive and have no self-control. It’s so difficult and I hate it.
This isn’t the worst part of your life!
This is a good time in your life, as odd as that may sound! You have the time to “be with yourself” and gain clarity on what gives you a sense of meaning and purpose in your life.
The first important thing for you to understand right now is that the mind works on polarities — yin/negative/dark and yang/positive/light — which are “complementary opposites” necessary for movement.
You can’t be conscious of anything that isn’t moving…
Anything in the mind must have its functional opposite. You can’t know what a woman is unless you know what a man is. You cannot know “what you want” until you are clear on what you don’t want.
From what you shared with me here, it seems you are getting plenty of opportunities to experience what you don’t want in your mind and life at this time, so take advantage of this opportunity to be alone with yourself, or it’s just wasted time.
Remember that all life is a series of choices. Choosing not to choose is a choice.
The human mind
What you think of as “your mind” is really “not your mind” in many ways. The human brain is a two-way sending and receiving station, just like a radio station or a two-way radio.
You can call others and they can call you, but that’s only possible because the signal is sent in every direction at once, just like a two-way radio.
Your mind is picking up on the thoughts and feelings of everyone “in and around you.” These are the many people who have influenced you, from your parents to teachers, friends and even the many media streams you’ve absorbed by watching and listening to them.
We have a “personal unconscious” that holds the thoughts and feelings from our whole life, even our past lives. It is called the personal unconscious because the information within it is below the radar of our conscious mind.
However, it regularly bubbles up into our consciousness, producing a mix of thoughts that reflect its contents. These can be inspiring, creative and loving thoughts or dark, negative and evil thoughts as you’ve described.
Yet, how many of them are actually “your own?”
Only by paying attention to how you use the power of your own mind and getting clear on what thoughts are actually worth “believing and acting out” will you ever be able to learn to use your mind effectively to create what you want.
When negative thoughts arrive, simply witness them an