EPISODE 188

Christopher Ryan: Sex and Relationships

Paul has talked about Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means For Modern Relationships so much since starting his Living 4D podcast series more than three years ago, it was long overdue to check in with the book’s influential author, Christopher Ryan.

Christopher shares the journey to led him to write Sex at Dawn and describes our very human and complicated relationship with sex in this career-spanning Living 4D conversation.

Learn more about Christopher’s work on his website and social media via Twitter and Instagram. Listen to his Tangentially Speaking podcast on Substack.

SHOW NOTES
  • How Christopher’s assumptions about the sexes and sex fell apart. (9:05)
  • Changing the cultural narrative about sex and coupling by examining hunter-gatherer societies. (17:29)
  • Emotional obesity. (38:08)
  • Are women now more interested in relationships with other women than men? (44:29)
  • Comparing emotional and sexual monogamy. (1:02:33)
  • Monogamy versus polygamy versus polyamory. (1:10:02)
  • Ethical non-monogamy. (1:16:41)
  • How can we use sex to cement interconnected relationships within a community? (1:27:21)
  • When Christopher realized he was non-monogamous. (1:36:01)
  • Being sexual, an adult and a good example to your kids. (1:40:18)
  • Libido: The essential energy for life. (1:51:15)
  • Christopher says Dan Savage is responsible the success of Sex at Dawn. (2:11:57)
  • Pleasure cannot be monetized. (2:14:54)
  • “When you’re lived a false life, either you’re wanting someone to tell you the truth or you’re desperate for them not to…” (2:27:07)
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