Our Western culture and, sadly, most cultures today don’t provide us with training to enhance our emotional intelligence. Also, we are generally unaware as to how the way we care for our body or how we think are the most powerful generative forces behind our emotions.
In regard to feeling our emotions, I wrote this response to a question on my YouTube channel. I hope you find it helpful in your own life.
Nagadem Badoo: It’s very interesting, your work. When you spoke about feeding your emotions, what do you mean by that? Because food is very simple. You’re hungry, so you eat. Maybe, you need money to buy food, then you get money.
But with emotions? When you need love, you cannot buy it, you cannot take it and you cannot force it from (others). It comes when it comes and goes when it goes. Same with sex. All humans need sex, but you cannot force it, or demand it (or yeah buy it, but it would not fill the emotional need).
So, my question and point is how do you feed yourself emotionally? Because sometimes we want something but we also have blocks that keep us from that, like fear. Thank you!
Feed your emotions
That’s a good question. To feed one’s self emotionally means:
1. Having a clear dream for yourself, for your life to the best of your ability at any given time in your life.
2. Establishing healthy 4 Doctors values. Your “yes” has no value until you learn to say “no” to people, places, things or activities that are not dream-affirmative.
With regard to the “feeling” function of consciousness, emotions are generated either when we are in alignment with our dream/values (positive emotions) or acting in ways that negate our own path (negative emotions).
If someone acts against our values — not giving us the space we’ve requested, borrowing something and not returning it or returning that thing broken — we feel an emotional charge that reflects how we feel about that specific value being trespassed. This would be a “top down” means of generating emotions.
When we choose to do the things that generate positive emotions in us, be it art, dance, singing, playing, working on our dreams, contributing to the lives of others or consciously loving, respecting and caring for ourselves, we generate positive, life-/dream-affirmative emotions.
As we do such things, if we pay attention, we learn to feel our emotions, and understand how to feel and honor them when we are not being self-affirmative or feel trespassed by others.
These feelings enable us to understand what we are creating, allowing or accepting so that we recognize the emotions we feel come from what we perceive as negative experiences. These help us learn to be more conscious and make better choices.
3. Caring for your body within the context of the 4 Doctors. When we sleep effectively, eat high quality food in proportions that reflect our authentic individual needs and move our bodies in ways that give us the strength (our biomotor) profile we need to fulfill our dreams, many good things happen.
Our stress levels are significantly lowered, we have the nutrition on board to generate the neurotransmitters and hormones that support healthy emotional responses and learn to feel healthy emotional responses from a healthy body.
The feeling function of consciousness is directly tied to our capacity and willingness to engage in “awareness.” People can have everything in the world they want, and still not feel satisfied if they choose not to be aware of what they already have, are given or can give.
Be aware of your emotions
If we don’t put our awareness within our bodies, we diminish our capacity to feel emotions. This often leads to progressively greater levels of depression because not engaging ourselves with feeling and awareness narrows the frequency range of our feelings and awareness, so our lives and inner experiences get narrow.
With awareness, we can feel emotions that are generated merely with the changes occurring as we eat or drink, move or not move or breathe well or poorly.
With awareness, we can feel the emotions generated by each thought we engage or create, and can choose to experience the range of our emotions, and act in response to them in ways that are life-, health- and dream-affirmative.
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